I’m starting this because being a single woman in this world can be exhausting. There’s a “single tax” on everything – not just the bills, but the constant opinions and the way people judge who I am. I’m fed up with feeling like I have to justify my life and defend who I am. I want to be proud of the person I’ve become, even if I’m the only one who sees the work it took to get here.
I’m also trying to get my head around my inner circle getting smaller. I’m learning that if people can’t respect my boundaries or my truth, they don’t get a seat at my table anymore. I’m still adjusting to the fact that it’s okay for that circle to decrease. It’s not a failure – it’s just me finally prioritising my peace over keeping people around who don’t actually get me.
The goal here is simple: stop the overthinking.
I have a habit of letting things get under my skin. It’s so frustrating when people hide from the truth just to save face and rely on fiction. It’s draining being judged by people who don’t have the full story, or who take advantage of my kindness when it suits them.I find myself dwelling on it all or wanting to react to the unfairness of it.
I’m learning to accept that I can’t expect everyone to have the same values that I do. Just because I would never treat someone that way doesn’t mean they won’t do it to me. This journal is my way of breaking the habit of reacting to it. When I feel that urge to rise to the bait or replay their choices in my head, I’m going to put it here instead.
- Write it down, then let it go.
- If it’s on the page, it doesn’t need to stay in my head.
- Processing things doesn’t mean fighting them.
This is for me. It’s about learning to deal with things better, standing my ground, and finally understanding that it’s okay to protect my space.